“A person might say, “I have thoughts, but I am not my thoughts, I have feelings, but I am not my feelings”– the person is no longer identified with them as a subject, but sill owns them as an object — which is indeed healthy, because they are still owned as “my thoughts.” That ownership is crucial. If I actually felt that the thoughts in my head were somebody else’s thoughts, that is not transcendence, but severe pathology. So healthy development is the conversion of 1st person subjective (“I”) to 1st-person objective or possessive (“me/”mine”) within the I-stream. This is the very form of healthy transcendence and transformation: the I of one stage becomes the me of the I of the next.” from Integral Spirituality by Ken Wilber p 127